Since I found out about and announced my pregnancy, I've gotten SO many responses from so many people. For the most part, it's been very good. Overwhelming majority. But there's ALWAYS a few that are a little off, right? ;) And since I want to remember it ALL, I wanted to share and CATEGORIZE some of the reactions I've gotten. You wouldn't think I'd HAVE to do that, right? But never underestimate the power of humanity. There are some amazing people out there. I personally have a lot of people that THINK they know me because they see me sing at church, so I'd say the stranger/inappropriate responses to me are from them.
Here are GOOD, APPROPRIATE reactions which are the most common I have received. If you have common sense, these won't be any kind of novelty.
"Congratulations!"
"SO happy for you!"
"When are you due?"
"How are you feeling?"
"Do you want a boy or a girl!"
etc, etc, right?
Then I get a few of these, which don't make me mad or anything (I'm not crazy hormonal--yet), but I do find myself thinking, "Huh?"
"Were you all trying?" or
"I didn't know you all were trying."
"Was this a surprise?"
I don't think the first and last one are bad or wrong, especially if we are close or friends. I would say something like that to a friend. But it's the middle one. Seriously, I know this is the world of social media where everyone shares WAY more than anyone cares or needs to know about, but "Trying for a baby" was just never going to be a facebook status of mine. WHY would you know that? Now if it came up in conversation, and someone asked me, I would say, "Yes, we want more," but really, whose business is it unless I choose to make it so? I hope that doesn't sound mean, and it doesn't make me mad...it's just an ODD question coming from someone that sees me in passing and likes my sparkly shirts.
I don't even think THOSE are bad. These last ones are the ones that I think are stupid.
"Don't you know what causes that???"
"Ohhh, I know what you all have been doing!"
Um what? The first is usually said by goofy guys to Travis, who to their own credit, reach maximum maturity in 7th grade and never go beyond that. Yeah. The 2nd one was said from an older lady in the choir. She's half crazy anyway, but I just looked at her. I've been married almost 9 years, honey. Been doing it a while now. Jennifer said, "Way more than I have kids to show for." lol. SO, if you stick to the simple "congrats!" you'll be good. :)
"I didn't know you all were trying."
"Was this a surprise?"
I don't think the first and last one are bad or wrong, especially if we are close or friends. I would say something like that to a friend. But it's the middle one. Seriously, I know this is the world of social media where everyone shares WAY more than anyone cares or needs to know about, but "Trying for a baby" was just never going to be a facebook status of mine. WHY would you know that? Now if it came up in conversation, and someone asked me, I would say, "Yes, we want more," but really, whose business is it unless I choose to make it so? I hope that doesn't sound mean, and it doesn't make me mad...it's just an ODD question coming from someone that sees me in passing and likes my sparkly shirts.
I don't even think THOSE are bad. These last ones are the ones that I think are stupid.
"Don't you know what causes that???"
"Ohhh, I know what you all have been doing!"
Um what? The first is usually said by goofy guys to Travis, who to their own credit, reach maximum maturity in 7th grade and never go beyond that. Yeah. The 2nd one was said from an older lady in the choir. She's half crazy anyway, but I just looked at her. I've been married almost 9 years, honey. Been doing it a while now. Jennifer said, "Way more than I have kids to show for." lol. SO, if you stick to the simple "congrats!" you'll be good. :)
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